How To Find a Babysitter That You Can Trust

How to find a babysitter that you can trust

One of the most common worries that we as parents have is finding a babysitter for our little one(s). If you are anything like me you find it hard leaving your child alone in the first place, even if it is with a completely trustworthy family member. No matter who you leave your child with, you will think they will probably not do things as you would.

You ponder the possibilities of your child feeling sad or miserable without you and not being able to do the things that you and your child usually do together. Are they feeding my child correctly? Are they making sure he/she takes a nap? Are they going to read their favorite storybook? Questions like these flow through a parent’s brain on a daily basis; at times, it even makes us as parents not want to go to work or go out to dinner as we had planned.

Use your best judgment

There are several things we, as parents, need to consider in these instances. Do I know/trust the person I am leaving my child with? If you have doubts or worries about the person you are leaving your child with, consider asking the potential babysitter questions that will give you a better idea of what kind of person they are.

For instance,

How long have you been a babysitter?

What are some of your qualifications? 

..This is a question I find very important, especially if the person you are considering is someone you have never met before. I would ask them what references if any if they have from prior babysitting experiences.

There is no doubt that most parents would feel more comfortable leaving their child with the other parent, grandparents, or any of the child’s immediate family. However, this is not always an option for everyone. Some people either live far away from immediate or closely knit family or have no other family members. Others are single mothers with no one to depend on. Also, having to find a babysitter in a newspaper ad or online can be scary. You don’t want to mistakenly let the wrong type of person have access to your child. So, how do I find a babysitter?

Where to start

First of all, start with your closest friends and family—people you obviously trust and know on a personal level. Then, branch out from there. You’d be surprised to find that many of your friends on Facebook who you know would be willing to babysit for you if needed. You don’t know until you ask. If this route does not work for you, there are several websites that many people deem trustworthy for finding a good babysitter.

Some questions to ask your potential new babysitter’s previous employers – How long did you employ him/her? Why did they leave? How much were they compensated? What were some of his/her strengths? What were some of his/her weaknesses? How did he/she handle stressful situations?

All of these are good questions to ask. Doing your research is the key to finding the best sitter for your little ones. If you are leaving your child alone in your home with a babysitter it may be wise to invest in a home surveillance system. In my opinion it is better to be safe than sorry when it comes to your children. It may be wise to disclose to the sitter that you keep your home under surveillance for legal purposes in some states, but I would check on this for your area.

Define Your Needs and Expectations

Before beginning your search for a babysitter, take some time to define your needs and expectations. Consider factors such as the age of your children, the frequency and duration of babysitting sessions needed, and any special requirements or preferences you may have. Consider what qualities are most important to you in a babysitter, such as experience, reliability, and compatibility with your family’s values.

Seek Recommendations from Trusted Sources

One of the most effective ways to find a good babysitter is to seek recommendations from trusted sources, such as friends, family members, or neighbors who have used babysitters. Ask for referrals from parents whose children are of similar age to yours, as they may be able to recommend babysitters with experience with children in the same age range.

Conduct Thorough Interviews

Once you’ve gathered a list of potential babysitters, schedule interviews to get to know them better and assess their qualifications and suitability for the job. Prepare a list of questions to ask during the interview, covering topics such as their experience with childcare, training and certifications, availability, and approach to discipline and safety.

Check References and Conduct Background Checks

Before making a final decision, be sure to check the references provided by each babysitter and ask about their experience working with children and their reliability and trustworthiness. Consider conducting background checks to verify the babysitter’s identity and ensure they have a clean criminal record.

Evaluate Compatibility with Your Family

In addition to assessing the babysitter’s qualifications and experience, consider how well they will fit in with your family dynamic and routines. Look for babysitters who share your values and parenting style and demonstrate warmth, patience, and empathy toward your children.

Observe Interactions with Your Children

Invite potential babysitters to spend time with your children before making a final decision, allowing you to observe their interactions and gauge how well they connect with your kids. Pay attention to how the babysitter engages with your children, communicates with them, and responds to their needs and behaviors.

Clarify Expectations and Responsibilities

Once you’ve selected a babysitter, clarify your expectations and responsibilities upfront to ensure a smooth and successful working relationship. Discuss details such as scheduling, payment rates, emergency procedures, house rules, and specific instructions or routines for caring for your children.


If cost is more of your issue, be sure to specify your budget to your potential sitter. Various websites and apps often require a recurring payment or for you to select a helpful budget. According to, the median hourly wage for a babysitter is $11.02. But, if you still are not ready to settle on a babysitter, then perhaps finding a daycare is your best bet. There are many reputable daycares out there for you to choose from.

To find a good daycare, search on Google and browse through reviews; research is key. Speak with the director of the daycare and devise a scheduling plan that works for you. You would be surprised to find that there are daycares out there that work at all hours of the day for your convenience. Using Google Maps is helpful as when you search for daycares near you it will automatically list all surrounding daycares and their rating out of 5 stars. Also, ask around again people who hold the same values as you, and ask them about places they recommend. Look for a daycare with a clear and structured plan for children.

Who is qualified?

Finding good care can seem like hard work, doing research, checking references, and asking questions, but stop and think for a moment as you go through the process. The well-being of your child is at stake, isn’t it worth going the extra mile to find the best possible candidate leave your child in the care of? I think we as parents know the answer, nothing is more valuable than our children.  Do not feel bad if you can’t find someone right away, keep searching and taking notes. Writing important information down in a notepad is always a good idea. Keep track of what you’ve learned and refer back to it. So, let’s review one more time what you are looking for in an ideal babysitter.

  • Individuals with prior experience caring for children through babysitting, childcare, or related roles.
  • Those who have received formal training or certification in childcare, such as CPR and first aid certification.
  • Responsible teenagers or young adults who have demonstrated maturity and reliability in previous commitments.
  • Adults who have undergone background checks and have a clean criminal record.
  • Family members or close friends who have a strong bond with the child and are trusted by the parents.
  • Individuals with a genuine love for children and a nurturing personality.
  • Those who are knowledgeable about child development and age-appropriate activities.
  • Babysitters who are attentive, patient, and capable of handling emergencies calmly and efficiently.
  • Individuals who communicate effectively with children and parents, providing updates and addressing concerns.
  • Babysitters who are adaptable and able to follow the specific instructions and routines provided by the parents for the care of their child.

These are some of the most important requirements when finding a babysitter. But ultimately, go with your gut. As parents, we have instincts that we often follow to protect our children; this is no different. If your gut tells you that you feel comfortable letting a certain person take care of your child, then you probably are right. And if you immediately get the feeling that this is the wrong sitter for you, then move on to the next candidate.

I hope you find what you are looking for!

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– Sincere Mommy

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